Around about a year ago, my best friend whisked me away for a lovely evening of afternoon tea all to tell me the wonderful news that she was pregnant. We laughed, we cried and it was a wonderful evening but what was even more astonishing was the beauty of motherhood she has shown me since. I learnt a lot not just in the nine months following this but the months and years which followed.
Sleep Deprivation is rife
I mean you get told this numerous time but seeing how much sleep a mother actually gets and the reality of this is truly eye opening. I have a higher appreciation for mothers going through this and overtime I hear a mother talking about this – I honestly want to give them the biggest hug.
No love will match the love you have for your children
My best friend is fiercely loyal and loving but I see this on a whole other level when she is with her children. She always have one eye on them and it is wonderful yet terrifying to see. To love someone wholeheartedly like that is scary but something I am secretly excited to experience one day.
It is ok to ask for help
I do not mean you have a partner by your side but surrounding yourself with a support network of some form is something I would like to hope most parents out there have. My best friend lives far but whenever she is in town, it is comforting for me to know I am five minutes away from her if she needs me at a moments notice.
You need to look after yourself
We all put pressures on ourselves, parenthood increases this tenfold so to have someone to lean on is beneficial in so many ways, from looking after your own mental health to taking over when you need 10 minutes to recuperate. It becomes more important when your a parent as you have someone else relying on you to be the best possible version of yourself you can be.
Your time is not your own
This is the one thing which terrifies me. I love a little bit of a routine and I like knowing as much as possible how my day is looking. The first few years of having a baby changes this completely. You have their sleeping pattern and eating pattern to follow and you and everyone around you needs to adapt accordingly.
My best friend was one of the first people close to me who showed me what true motherhood entails and I will forever be in awe of her and the life lessons she has shown me through this journey.