So today is Valentines and while the day of love is traditionally linked to romantic love, I wanted to bring attention to the different shades of love which you can celebrate not just today but all year around.
Learning to love yourself
Possibly the most important form of love of all is self love. The way you see yourself is the way others will see you and you will be treated accordingly. Learning to love yourself is a journey and something you have constantly work on but it is also the most rewarding. Looking back on times in my life, the moments I am the most happiest and content are the times when I am happy within myself.
How to love yourself do you ask? Do things which make you happy. Small acts of self care such as spending an evening on a Netflix binge, having a calming bath or reading a book, can make the world of difference on how you see yourself and in turn, the relationship you have with others.
As you grow older, friendships need work. When you are younger, you see your friends regularly at school, on the weekends in the evenings. As a child your friends are an integral part of your day to day routine. This changes as you grow older. There are some friends I have not seen for a good few months yet I still count them as some of my best friends in the world. Why? because we work on our friendships. Thanks to technology, we are able to message each other and keep up to date with what is going on. Even from miles away my friends are constant support of love and support when I need it and it is something I am determined not to take for granted.
If you live near your gal pals, gather them together for a little dinner party, a coffee date or something so you can spend a couple of hours catching up. If you live further away, send them a message telling them how much they mean to you. Trust me, they will appreciate it.
My sister is bloody amazing and I have become more conscious of telling her this and letting her know how much she means to me. We literally have opposite schedules so it can be hard to spend time together but we make it work. We schedule cinema dates, Netflix dates, in fact some of my favourite times with my sister are at the end of the day when our parents have gone to bed and we are just hanging out downstairs catching up on TV and just vegging out. Nothing fancy but those moments are priceless.
Saving the best till last. A love I feel can often be overlooked is the love we show our family. From our parents to our aunts and uncles, we often take for granted our family know how much they mean to us. While they may know this, it is important to tell them and show them accordingly. Everyone does this differently. For example, my dad expresses his love by being my taxi driver. I dread to think about the amount of miles he has driven for my sister and I.
Everyone is different and there are many ways you can express your love to your family, sometimes that may mean spending an evening away from the laptop, other times it will be attending an event for them even when you do not want too.
However you decide to spend the day, remember there is no right or wrong way to show love. Everyone expresses it differently. That is what makes love of any kind so special and unique.