I grew up in a small town or as I like to call it, the place where everyone knows each other. Some days I loved it, other days, I found it a little suffocating. While I didn’t hate it, a part of me never really felt like I fitted in. I always knew there would be a time when I would leave and while it would always it home, it is not a home I would stay in. Over the past couple of years, I’ve come to love the little place I grew up in. I learned a lot of lessons I wouldn’t have otherwise.
It is comforting to know all the shop keepers on the main road
So I was walking along the main road on Saturday and popped into a few of the shops, not because I needed too but because it felt familiar and nice to go and chat to some of the owners. I won’t lie, it can be a bit tricky when you’re a kid (I got in trouble after trying to cross a busy road in the wrong place) After living in cities where most of the stores are fresh it can take a long time to get on a first name basis with the owners there is a little bit of comfort it brings.
Being five minutes away from family is a luxury not everyone has
Everywhere in London takes at least fifteen minutes if not more to get too and usually comes with a lot of planning. Small towns don’t work that way. I am lucky enough to live five minutes from my aunts, uncles, and grandparents. My neighbors are like family. This means, there is a little bit of spontaneity involved. I know lots of people who do not have that and I realise how special it is to be able to say that. It is a big reason I will be getting married in living in a small town when I am ready so my children can have too.
People forget things
Part of the small town is everyone knowing your business. Especially during your school years. Kids, do things, embarrassing things, fun things, good things and some mistakes too. When cringy moments happen, we often get told people will forget about it and move on. It is a cheesy movie line but I promise you it is true.
Living in a small town may not be what I need during my twenties but it is a big part of who I am and it was definitely what I needed growing up and will need later on in life.