Each year comes with new lessons and I feel like in 2019 I learned a lot about myself as a person. I did some soul searching I thought I would share nine lessons I learned in 2019 and how I am taking that energy into 2020.
You are the captain of your own ship
I have known this for a while but I came to the stark realisation that I am the only person who is responsible for my feelings and action. Nothing will happen unless YOU do it for YOURSELF. Want to start a new project, go forth and put pen to paper. Want to spend the afternoon in your town centre, don’t wait for a lift and take yourself there.
Listening to your body
Towards the end of the year, I really began listening to my body. From when it was telling me it was craving chocolate or food to when it is telling me to relax and take a break. At first, this terrified me a little me. As a person who likes to be productive and has had a troubled relationship with food in the past, this was very freeing and something I have bought to 2020.
Talking makes a difference
I am used to being the person people talk too rather than being the person who does the talking so doing both has been an interesting concept for me. It has been really interesting to see how this impacts my relationships with others.
You can do many things
I have a lot of different dreams and while society can dictate I cannot do any of them let alone do them simultaneously, the truth is I can.
Your creative ideas are not silly
Going to Ruckus Retreat last year really made me realise my ideas are valid. I am surrounded by supportive people but it can be hard for them to get excited about projects which can leave me feeling deflated. Spending time at the retreat and talking through my ideas and sharing my work with others who could offer feedback was really special and made me realise I am not living in my head and that I have got this.
You have to be happy with your choices
No one else needs to 100% agree with you and the choices you make in life. From reducing my intake of fast fashion to not eating meat in 2019 can take people some time to get used too. It also comes with some uncomfortable comments with those around you. I learned that although these conversations are hard it is ok. The main thing is, to be happy within yourself about the choices you are making and the reasons in which you are making them. No one else truly knows what it is in your heart.
Libraries are fun
2019 was the year I fell back in love with Libraries. They have always been my special space but I have gone back to visit my local library at least 2 -3 times a month and honestly, it makes me really happy.
It is good to be spontaneous
I am someone who loves routine but I have had to adapt and be more spontaneous and you know what? It didn’t kill me. It allowed me to have experiences I would have missed out on otherwise so it made me incredibly happy that I was able to do this more in 2019 without breaking and losing my mind.
Forming relationships take work but they are worth it
Any relationship be it with friends, a partner or family take work. I am not talking about toxic relationships (that is a different conversation for another day) but the relationships in your life which matter to you need nourishment. Like plants, if you don’t give them the time they need to grow, they will not nourish. I made more of an effort to work on these in 2019 and it has been a really interesting rewarding process.
What lessons did you learn last year? Let me know!